Dear Single Mom Who Wishes She Could Give More to Her Child

Dear Single Mom,

I am not, for one second, going to try and pretend that I know how hard it is for you. I don't. I can only imagine.. I can, however, identify with your child. I was raised by a single mom.  While every situation is unique, I can at least offer some insight into your child's life.

For my mother, her biggest hurt as a single mom was feeling like she was never enough. She couldn't give us the trendy clothes (our wardrobes were mostly made up of hand-me-downs from church friends), she couldn't buy us the expensive toys, or take us to amusement parks or the zoo. She felt like she had deprived us of a good childhood. She couldn't stand the thought that we might feel like we were less than our peers because we didn't have the things or the lifestyle that they had.

But looking back, do you know what I recall of my childhood? I don't remember feeling deprived. I don't remember feeling like I was less than because I didn't have the things my peers had.

What I do remember is how she was always there to hold me as I cried when people hurt my feelings. She was always my biggest supporter and was always there to comfort me.

I remember her finding a way to make it to every school play and every choir performance.

I remember her making sure I went to church every Sunday and Wednesday and filling our home with faith, hope, love, and Jesus.

I remember the scavenger hunts she set up for us at home.

I remember her showing up at my school just to give me a hug and a chocolate kiss.

I remember unconditional love.


Your child doesn't need fancy things to have a good childhood.
They just need the love of their mother.
That's what they'll remember of their childhood.

You're strong, momma. It's hard to be a mother with a partner. I can't imagine how hard it is for a single mom. But I do know that God can get you through any situation. Ask Him for help. Ask him to guide you in your parenting. When your children are grown, they'll look back and see a mom who did everything she could to give them a great life full of love and joy. Keep up the good work, mom.

To the Mom Who Feels Lonely and Isolated.. You're Not Alone.

Dear Mom who feels lonely and isolated.. you're not alone.

I know it feels like you're alone. Trust me, I do! You feel isolated, trapped, and like no one truly understands what you're feeling. I understand. I feel it too.

Your days consist of cooking, feeding, cleaning, chasing, wrangling, and wishing the coffee gave you more energy than it actually does.

Sometimes you go weeks without leaving the house.

You count down the hours until your husband comes home.

You have no adult interaction except for the few hours between when your husband comes home and you go to bed.

You recall the days when all you ever wanted was to be married, have kids, and stay home with them.. but now that it's here, something is missing. You have all you ever wanted but you're still not happy.

You miss the days when you felt like you were actually good at something. When you were praised for your accomplishments. Being a stay-at-home mom can feel pretty thankless and often leave you feeling like you're the world's worst mom.

You love your children more than you ever thought you could love someone.. but the loneliness is still there.

It's hard, mom. I know it is. I wish I had the answer and the solution but most days I'm struggling with it, myself.

All I can say is that you're not alone. I feel your pain. God feels your pain. Reach out to Him when you're hurting. He's waiting to wrap you up in His arms.

Here is a verse that I tend to cling to when I'm deep into these hard times and it really gives me hope. My hope is that it will do the same for you.

Psalm 23:3 He restores my soul;

There is more to the verse but that part is what has always stuck out to me. He restores my soul. He loves you and wants to see peace and healing in your life.

If you're feeling this way today, leave your name in the comments and I'll be praying for you.

These times are hard but we'll get through them.

Go give those babies a big hug and remember why you wanted to stay home in the first place.




Here are a few more posts to encourage you in this season of life:

• When You Need a Lift in Your Motherhood - The Purposeful Wife
• 8 Scripture Verses for Struggling Moms {Free Printable} - The Purposeful Mom
• Rediscovering Joy in Motherhood - The Purposeful Mom
• 10 Promises for Tired Moms - Smart Mom Smart Ideas